Obviously I'm still not very good at this "game." I've taken this one girl into S3, but foolishly have not told her about my belief in open relationships. Why? Because I get scared. Why? Because I'm still building this belief in myself, and because new things take me awhile to just go "DUH, THAT'S HOW IT IS STUPID." Ie: I used to have issues with the whole "wait up while i dig a fucking condom out", now it's just like playing some intermission music for a sec and getting back to business.
Now, I'm in a position with another girl that we're into Comfort and rapport building. I refuse to escalate any further and before she starts to wonder if it's her, I have to stop being a pussy and get into conversation about relationships.. a la deep rapport. Also I guess part of Qualifying, where does that fit again? Argh.. anyway. So this other girl knows about her, and knows what I'm doing- and she's okay with it because although we haven't discussed it, we both share the same frame of what we are together.
So what's the big deal?
Well it's the other girls bday and I'm not going to talk about that shit on her special day. I'm also not going go escalate tonight. But what I do plan on doing is talking to her BEST FRIEND (oh holy shit you have no idea how close these guys are) about why she keeps going back to her douche bag abusive boyfriend, or at least dates someone else at the same time who does appreciate her, and even discredit Abusive Boy Friend (ABF) by asking if he can only handle exclusive relationships.
This had better turn the Idea Lightbulb on for her, where she gets where I'm going.
You see, I love women. They each have their own lives, their own mannerisms, and I adore them all. The super sensitive sweet girl who you'd hate to hurt, who probably wants traditional exclusive dating, and the good times girl who giggles just right, is super flirty, and knows how to have a good time without having to have sex. Well, that's who I'm dealing with right now. I don't want to hurt this girl at all. I will even put fun girl on hold to see how I like the super sweet girl, and I know she'll be okay with it- but I don't know if I really am because it shows weak frame to me. Who am I? What do I want? Right?
The last girl I didn't qualify right is super psycho and is causing problems for us all, even has her little bro giving me a hard time. But I'm keeping it right when talking to him, because it is what it is. He's used to that exclusive shit, and I'm going to break open his world with material from the community. He'll either think I'm scum, or the man, I don't care which as long as he really keeps to himself. I've already closed off his thread, so we'll see what happens.
I had to post this before tonight, because tonight is *her* birthday. And I want to post how I'm feeling now before we all go out, get trashed, and have another Best Night Ever.
No, I wasn't too careful about what I got her for her bday either. But it definitely screams I'm interested. My friends just get shit cards, maybe even handwritten, and a couple bucks to offset their impending bar tab ;) (Exceptions of course, do exist.)
Okay so done, I need to find something to do for another hour or so. Maybe resting and listening to some nice music.
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