Student RBF

Well unfortunately it's worse than I thought. I knew he texted this girl he liked a few too many times in a row (okay, 5 is a lot with no response). I tried to explain to him that she's busy, has a day job where she isn't chained to her phone, and that when she gets a chance she will return his text.

So I assumed I was in some sort of damage control already. Well I was right, but I definitely underestimated it all :) I'm still trying to convey generally accepted community concepts to this guy, and he loves everything. But I know his chances with this girl are pretty much totally yeah absolutely totally annihilated. Especially when I took her out later in the week and she was telling me all about creepy guy. Sorry dude!

He's already LJBF after only meeting her one day and getting the number. We'll see what I can do, I had such high initial hopes for him too.

The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida

Just finished reading this book. The one thing I regret is not reading with my notepad close by, to write down everything that I want to remember, everything that I am aligned with, everything that brought forth enlightenment and realization.

Some brief points that I want to remind myself about here, from the table of contents:
Stop hoping for a completion of anything in life.
Never change your mind just to please a woman.
Enjoy your friends' criticism
Be willing to change everything in your life
Stop hoping for your woman to get easier

Praise her
Tolerating her leads to resenting her
Dont analyze your woman
Stay with her intensity- to a point
Don't force the feminine to make decisions

Choose a woman who chooses you
What she wants is not what she says (p108- highly recommended first read)
She doesnt really want to be number one
Your excellent track record is meaningless to her (this is excellent for day to day life / business as well)

You are always searching for freedom
She wants the "killer" in you

I'm going to skim through this book again right after hitting post, just a quick glance through every page, before moving on to our next book.

mPUA

Men find women and declare themselves "out of the game." I've read about it on the forums, but have never witnessed it first hand.

The girl I am with now, absolutely perfect, and I see myself being totally committed to her- purely us, absolutely beautiful. Am I worried about losing myself? About losing the massive social circles I have developed? Not exactly. Her and I go out all the time together, and what I used to do as part of being me, you know- a community guy, I do with her every time we're out. We are one person now, and it is absolutely beautiful and amazing.

Thus, making it official, that I am going to be training others now. Not in the full community style, but in my own way. I am meeting with one of my friends tonight to see what I am working with, what his goals in life are, what he is most afraid of, etc. He's not very bad really, because we met out in one of the largest nite clubs around here and I've seen him with a few ladies that he really likes. But I want to help him kill the boy, become a warrior king, and take life by the reigns and really move forward. Plus the way he keeps talking about this one girl in particular, I feel a real need to give him some of what I've learned from the community.

So this blog will most likely turn into a trial by fire review of me working with others. Anyone who has taught anything knows that students are the best teachers, and you learn SO MUCH MORE. All of there questions are directed to YOU, and YOU must know the answer. The first time I experienced this, my master turned to me to train the children's Tae Kwon Do classes. Those kids taught me so much, and helped me really learn the technique, it's really an awesome experience.

And so I now move forward, to attain mPUA status by my own definition.

Also working with another friend of mine who is deep in the community. But that will help me as well.

This was a great year for self exploration, growing, and learning. Next year will that, and so much more- helping others.

Signing off for now,
B

Milestone / Update

A few weeks ago, much like many other aspiring master pickup artists, I reached another milestone- without any rhyme or reason other than mommy was right- practice does make perfect. There was the preparty with the college girls, but something even more amazing happened at the club I'm always at.

Leader of men? Guys were buying me drinks, hell one guy paid my entire tab for the night. And it was SO ON with every single lady there. In fact, it got a little out of hand (hey I'm still new to this) and even though I qualify for non-jealous women, I almost lost my absolute most favorite girl due to jealousy.

Can I explain it? No.

Finally started watching the rest of the VH1 show and it sort of opens my eyes to things I've been doing, like peacocking. I never considered it wearing the clothes that everyone else isnt really wearing. For example, I have these really bitchin pants I got at Express that work really well with the blacklight setup at this place. They are very very very noticable with the pattern, even though they are mostly black. But that, plus the shiny necklaces and the ring here and there. So I guess I have been peacocking, the right way, not wearing all this psycho stuff. Some people just don't get Mystery or take things too literal *shrug*

The seduction chronicles post from the other day was pretty good as well. It makes me classify myself as a free-flowing pickup artist. However contrary to what they say, I still find myself totally addicted and appreciative of The Mystery Method in all of it's rigidity. And I take that rigidity and place it as a container around what I develop. I do enjoy using tried and true "routines", but I have so many that I can just come up with now, that I rarely do get to use one again unless my head screams at me that it is the perfect opportunity to use it.

And back to my girl, it's pretty much just her and me now. And we're about to go public with it. Am I sad? Not really. This gives me the opportunity to go back and re-read everything I have read so far and post my views on it here. It also gives me time to get through some books that I've still been meaning to read, and really focus on my business and The Warrior King Society. I've pretty much given that thing a back seat lately due to life restructuring. I'm hoping to be able to transform some of the AFCs around here that want help. I think I can do a lot for them, even though I haven't been officially trained by the masters and powers that be.

I'm still looking to replace my day job, but at the same time I'm redoing things to where if I have to, I can get by with my side business and then grow it beyond my wildest dreams to the point where I'm kicking myself hard for not doing it sooner.

That's all for now, take care guys and have a great week!

Game game

Combination of day game, night game, leader of men.

I have a collection of openers I use, about my life, that always lead to some sort of event during the week. Think of the goal as seeding, immediate or couple hour/day time bridging.

I have used these dialogues during the day/pre-going out at night to get guys and girls to go to certain events, like a promoter would do (am i really a promoter now? lol), and they usually immediately call their friends to take them out, and bring some more friends etc. The ones that are disinterested, no big deal at all.

So when I show up to the venue, I am already having folks say hi, come up to me, I have people to say hi to that I don't already know. There are a lot of people that I do know there, so this really adds to the number of people others see me with.

On top of that, I usually have like 2 or 3 of my "friends" :D there that come up and sit with me. Damn cockblocks, I love them though :)

I hope the gist of this post isnt lost in it's excessive ambiguity. I had to get the concept blogged before much longer.

The Warrior King Society

Just wanted to mention that since I've joined The Warrior King Society, my weight has remained the same, but I've lost 10% body fat. I'm still not at the 8% I'd like, but I'm pretty close. It has also helped me realize that I've been spending a lot of time at the gym unnecessarily.

Now I'm down to, dare I say, 30 minutes MAX. And I'm about to split things up between days for better recovery time between muscle failure / cardio. Less time, but yes, a dramatic improvement that I am happy with.

Plus, I've never felt like more of a man because of the health information I've started to apply in my life, and it only gets better every day.

If you want to have this type of success in your life, please check out the link I have here on the blog for the warrior king society. Yes it is a referral link, and I'd like to thank you for helping me out by signing up using it should you decide to. Even if you don't, you owe it to yourself to seriously consider signing up.

Day Game

If I start working nights, I'm going to shift my focus to day game. But the way I've been working, I don't think it will be an issue.. just something I'm thinking about.

Friday

...night was spectacular. I've seen friends I haven't seen since the beginning of summer, because of them working horrendous summer schedules and all. Hopped around a few venues with no intent to really stay at them, and it was on the entire time. If I could keep *that* frame all the time, I think I would have greater success.

I'm still having a problem meeting new people, now that I have a lot of people I consider my friends here. I think I'm buying into things that contribute to my false sense of security again, and I need to cut it out. I need to be able to just have fun with new people every place I go. That sense of deep rapport and excitement.

I've started using some of the things I read about in the blogs, about sexual framing in the venue "fucking the shit out of them on the table in front of everyone" and not really denying it. Because hell, Nancy Friday is my new personal idol. I'm going to be creating my own stories based on her style every time I'm out and it's on!

This week, I feel myself doing more studying and reading. These decisions are usually tight budget related, I've had to make a lot of unexpected purchases this month that totals over 600$ which is a lot for me. Luckily, the way I'm rearranging my life now, these exact things can never come up again.

Sarging For Work

I'm planning to FTC the doorman at a nite club tonight.

"Hey real quick, if I was looking to work here, who would I talk to?"

A. We're not hiring.
Well, if you were hiring, who would I talk to?

B. X

Ah great, when is the best time to talk to X?

Important points are if the work is year round or only seasonal because I'm looking to replace my day job- even if that means I switch to working nights. Also, while I do not have experience working the environment, I have been to quite a few nite clubs in larger cities, and can be trained how they want me without me carrying "great ideas" from last employers.

I will be dressed okay, I did spend some time cleaning up the shoes and picking out what to wear.

Wish me luck guys!

Thursday

Sometimes I get stuck in my head, I'm in a perfect situation, and I destroy myself by focusing on lies, how I don't have game, how I'm fucking up the interaction. I didn't really want to take anyone home that night, but there were these 2 women who were perfect. What was I scared of? Everything was there, I could have jumped into comfort so quickly. The way she wouldnt let go of my hand and squeezed the shit out of it as I left. I've got to figure this one out.. she was amazing though.. damnit. Maybe I'm still looking to build the social circle, and not wanting to deal with SNL/Logistics/getting attached. Maybe that's just an excuse... hmms

restrospect

I was reading through my written journal the other day. Some of the women I tagged as HB, I wouldn't even consider gaming. Fair or not, they just aren't hot enough to me anymore. In fact, I almost slapped myself and started giving myself a hard time..

Now, I've only been actively social for a few months, but the rate at which I am readjusting my sights is impressive, at least to me (and that's all that really matters anyway). So cheers to me, and big cheers to inner game because I didn't go out Friday and I don't give a shit. I had to be at work early this morning and sleep wins.

I had a great night watching some James Bond movies and chillin with some animals I'm watching for a girl friend of mine. CJ has updated his core pua bookshelf, some books are missing (but not from my library ;)) and there are some additions. His current list determines what I'm reading next.

Trying to be Fidelio

(names have been changed :))

girls kick ass
i met this little hottie on friday
and somehow i always manage to make out with them
well andrea was thinking i might leave her at the club, and i was the one who gave her a ride
so she sent our friend sara over to make out with me, you know interrupt me and jennifer
well yeah, then sara went back and andrea came over and did the same fucking thing
i think jennifer thought i planned it because then she said "youre trying too hard"
and i told her "no no, this is me trying too hard" and i turned around and never talked to her again :D
so im eating sushi with my friend james from upstate yesterday and he says
"yeah i brought my friend down and i look over and this mother fucker (pointing to me) is making out with her lol"
good times :)
so i know she'll be back, and maybe next time she'll keep her mouth shut :)

Last Night

I owed this guy a shot from a few weeks ago when I was so broke, but needed a drink. That's the only money I spent last night, plus tip, less than $10. And the same person that bought me the shot a few weeks ago, bought me 2- and because of not really going out as much, that was more than enough :) It was a good night, so many people were there that I haven't seen in so long. And I started getting this often, and got it a lot last night, "you know everyone here dont you?"

Tonight, same deal. I might buy 1 drink, but we'll see :) I kinda liked not buying stuff because my money doesn't need to end up in my urinary tract.

I don't write LRs, but if I did there would be one here.

Update

Have not been going out. When I do, I spend all the money I have on drinks for myself and my friends. If I brought out 40$, that would be enough. But I bring out 300$ and don't stop at 40, I stop when there's nothing left to pull from my pockets. Totally have cut back the last 3 weeks or so. I think I'll go out for a little bit tonight, and not try to trick myself, but will just limit myself as a professional and learn to have fun in other ways.

The sister is asking about me still.. *sigh*

Also been slacking at the gym a little, mostly due to other personal matters that have been taking up my time, and they are of a nature that does not allow me to do anything BUT deal with them right then and there. I've missed 2 gym days this week, but based on the every-other-day mentality, I've only missed one after today. I'm still working hard towards my goals, and have lost some of my weight already (good news). I promise it's all been worthless fat, and I can actually start to see where my stomach should be.

Life is still good, have been focusing on sales because a lot of it deals with rapport, and how to get there quickly. Being in the game this long, it's nice to actually be able to clearly see the separations of what is what. Probably could have learned this in 30 minutes of a bootcamp though. But it's being internalized slowly.

Tonight will be about conversation with friends, not screaming at the music drunk. Writing that sentence actually makes me feel good too. Now if I could stay away from the sugar drinks. I suppose beer will be the most healthy, if not water.

The Sister and the Cousin

So my friend's cousin is here visiting for a bit, she just turned 21 and you can tell by her body language that she doesn't go out much. A lot of what we do seems to surprise her, but she doesn't object to anything and enjoys it. Still kind of a culture shock to her.

Now his sister is straight up gaming me, but I'm too drunk to remember exactly what went down. But she said "holy shit no one's ever turned me down before" and she did _the backturn_! And I looked at the cousin, because I for some reason when drunk like to explain social dynamics to her, and she's new to this whole going out thing, and I said there it is!! look! it's the backturn!! oooh! Which causes sister to lose it. Lots of kino and disgusting amounts of porno dancing ensue. But you know the deal with the social circle, I leave it at that :) Good night.

However, I understand a little more about my inner game issues with spending so much $. It also has to do with tipping, which is fine- but as the night goes on I seem to tip more just because I don't want to carry the fucking quarters around, or I forget the girls are being nice for the sole purpose of getting tips. Even though we do have some level of beginning comfort because they see me at least once a week, and ask questions about me (name, etc).

My favorite bartender, turns out she's going for her masters. I tell her how it's not very often that you see a beautiful woman who is so intelligent and smart. I've known her for a little while, so we definitely moved into more of a comfort frame last night, talking about her personal life. And at which point she bought us some drinks. I loved her before, but now she is even more kickass... masters, hell yes!

This is definitely a one of a kind summer, and I'm totally loving it, and of course never want it to end- but it will. The people that I see, namely the foreign exchange students, and there are many, they will all be gone after this summer and I will never see them again. I'm going to miss the girls, most of them are very very beautiful, and their smiles always steal my heart. They've helped me be able to talk with beautiful women, just to talk to them, no resume bullshit, just good conversation.

I posted at the beginning of this year (elsewhere) that this was going to be a great year, and it has far exceeded my expectations and dreams so far.

That's all for now,
B

Inner Game: Why I Drink So Much

I've recently spent a lot of time telling myself to stop drinking so much when I go out. It's fucking expensive for one thing, and it's fun. But perhaps I need to find a new way to have fun when I'm out right? So instead of telling myself to stop drinking, let's first examine why I do drink.

1. I don't know lyrics to the songs, and I like screaming along. When I'm drunk, I don't mind so much that I'm rambling incoherent shit very loudly. All of the venues I go to are way too loud to do anything else by default. Don't be too concerned however, isolation is easy later on. So dude, print out some lyrics and learn some of the songs you KNOW you hear a lot and enjoy listening to the most, then build from there.

2. Some of these drinks are damn yummy :):) And when you spend 5+ hours somewhere, just one will never do! But damn... maybe time to switch up to coke for real. Clinking a coke with your drunken neighbor is not nearly as much fun though. From budget perspective, 1.75$ bud selects are cheap. Stick with those when you can!

3. I notice I am not as free and fluid in my version of "dancing" without drinking. However now that I notice what I do when I am drunk, I can slowly teach myself to do that less drunk/sober and push my comfort level there. Perhaps some dancing lessons will help, but nothing too formal. Just like.. Club Dancing 101!

I think that covers it. Also, painfully so, don't go OUT so much? I spent all of $20 last week, normally it's $100 a night.. and I can't afford that any longer.

Reframe: You could have any girl here!

"You are that any-girl!"

Yes, it was a good reply when I said it. It was perfect, she loves me more than ever and we've been apart physically for 3 weeks now.

Listening to the pickup podcast and just finished the interview just before the one with Savoy, where they discuss that you need to have a clear goal in mind about what you want in a woman. Be very selective, not needy, etc.

This inspired me to reframe this thought, it just popped up in my head and I think it's absolutely perfect.

"Yes, I can have any girl. But you are the one I have been looking for!"

Money.

Pickuppodcast / Retrospect

So I've decided to actively listen to the guys at pickuppodcast.com. The other night I downloaded all 27 or so episodes and have been listening to them, pretty much when I feel like it. I still need hardcore music time, but given the fact I am driving a minimum of 160 miles every day, I'm not really hurting my chances to get through these. I really like these guys because they are not part of any commercial entity, and are aligned with what they call natural game- which is what I've been trying to develop on my own even with trying to totally immerse myself in The Mystery Method now Venusian Arts, Style's Annihilation Method, etc.

What really got me going was DeAngelo's On Being A Man DVD set that my friend loaned to me. Apparently that's something you do when you get sick of someone being a whiney bitch from a divorce. It seems to me that most of the guys in the community are all here because some long term relationship (8 years in my case, at least 5 in many others) soured and the guy was so pussy whipped from losing attraction and just being a supplicating little fucker. I know that's what happened to a few of us.

I would love to give this DVD set to anyone who I see not handling a breakup very well, and just sort of let them go from there. It has enough information related to the community hidden in there to get anyone who is motivated to change their life, really, to let the flood gates open. I hate to see guys suffer, but I'm keeping the community to myself over here, and just sharing bits of hard fact info.

One of the items mentioned on pickup podcast, people asked if they remember their first cold approach. I remember my first few, a cute blond in seaford who worked the bar at skipjacks. A few girls at the greene turtle in salisbury. Thinking back, I can recall shit body language and everything. I was the dog with his tail between his legs, trying to find a woman to live with me and take the place of my ex. Running them through the interview process, when all they wanted to do was fucking have fun. All I wanted was some girl to think I was leet and cling to me. That wasn't doing it.

Now tonight, I'm going to watch movies with one of my girlfriends and have a good time. We partied so hard last night it was ridiculous, I absolutely love the time we spend together. I only have two girls I feel that way about, the rest are all on the verge of being cut off :) Life is good, and I feel like, not a new man, but finally a man. Midlife crisis averted before age 30, score!

The Prepubescent Part of Puadom

The awkward moments, when you're finally starting to get features that say you are in fact a living breathing pua adult, yet are still retaining something that isn't quite right. I am still successfully closing, but am having a hard time getting certain information out of my girls about why they perceived me to be gay- which is not helping me eliminate it.

The only thing I can think of is that it's related to what I'm wearing. I've always had clothes that never fit right up until recently, and I think *maybe* I went too small on the shirts. But that's all I can think of, or maybe the fact that I am not pasty white anymore. As for the hair, it's always been short for the military so I'm sure that's not it.

Unfortunately I don't have the loot for CJ's eCoaching program or I'd bite, because I'm going to pick up one of my LTRs for the weekend and that's more important to me- why I fucking don't know- something with integrity and I've already told her I'm coming, and the friends I have who live up that way are expecting me. What this means is I have to find a way to make up $300 some other way this week to do it, because I WILL DO IT. GRR.

Anyways, so what do I do that makes me gay. One of my closes said "my friend just asked if you were gay", and I told her to let her friend know just how gay I really am. Good on my part, but WHAT GIVES.

Once this part is eliminated, I think I'll be in good shape.

I suck at freeze outs

Ok so she IM'd me this morning and I ignored it for awhile, which isn't too hard when you're working. But I eventually caved and asked her how her night was and how I felt that she seemed stressed. She apologized for being a bitch, and I told her that I understand women are incredibly emotional beings and that I love the roller coaster ride, which is partially true.
I remembered DeAngelo in On Being A Man drawing the straight arrow, which is man, and the woman all over the place up and down, and it was our job to be unmoved by her actions. She wants a strong man, not some noodle fuck that can't keep focus on his goals. Thanks D!

I realized it greatly with the last girl I was in love with, and now it's great to taste bittersweetness. So I pat myself on the back for succeeding at not being a whiney bitch myself and rising above the situation to where it fits my frame instead of the other way around. Score!

That being said, The Summer of Love challenge is almost upon us!!! Get ready for an awesome time with very absolutely awesome people! It begins the 15th of July so there's still time to sign up!

B