Focus 100% on reading, in it's entirety, The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. The preface already mentions being of warrior mentality, where each person in the world is hiding behind their walls, and it is our job to break them down and get to them by first going after the mind, and giving people the best most pleasurable experiences of their lives. Seduction, by the latin root means to lead astray, and people want to be lead astray all the time. The book promises to describe the different types of "victims" and the roles they need filled in their lives. Once we know who we are, and can figure out the other person, we will know which role to assume to begin work.
If anyone wants to read with me and discuss the book, now's a great time to start- I'm getting to chapter 1 today.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
need a plan
Last night, a very good looking woman told me that I look like I should be with the hottest women in the world. Now if only I could get my inner game sorted out, I'd be in good shape. I get mad AA if the girl isnt an UG or if she is someone I have an immediate physical interest in.
I need a plan. Back in the day, I felt better because everything was new, I would read something and follow it. Now, I feel inundated with information, resources, influences, and plus I've taken on so much in terms of learning other things that I've locked up. I resort to hanging out with friends and I'll be damned if I really meet anyone new on my own.
Knowing that everything is cyclical, I feel some relief. I know another leap is coming, I just need to focus on something and work on it. I'd say back to step one, and working on opening again. Open a zillion sets, fuck it. But then what do I say after, and that's my greatest sticking point. When I'm lucky, the other party secretly takes me past it, as I'm sure has happened in my cases.
To be an artist requires lots of practice. Right now I'm sitting with a coloring book scribbling all over the place.
I need a plan. Back in the day, I felt better because everything was new, I would read something and follow it. Now, I feel inundated with information, resources, influences, and plus I've taken on so much in terms of learning other things that I've locked up. I resort to hanging out with friends and I'll be damned if I really meet anyone new on my own.
Knowing that everything is cyclical, I feel some relief. I know another leap is coming, I just need to focus on something and work on it. I'd say back to step one, and working on opening again. Open a zillion sets, fuck it. But then what do I say after, and that's my greatest sticking point. When I'm lucky, the other party secretly takes me past it, as I'm sure has happened in my cases.
To be an artist requires lots of practice. Right now I'm sitting with a coloring book scribbling all over the place.
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Framing / MLTR / Continuously Fucking up
Obviously I'm still not very good at this "game." I've taken this one girl into S3, but foolishly have not told her about my belief in open relationships. Why? Because I get scared. Why? Because I'm still building this belief in myself, and because new things take me awhile to just go "DUH, THAT'S HOW IT IS STUPID." Ie: I used to have issues with the whole "wait up while i dig a fucking condom out", now it's just like playing some intermission music for a sec and getting back to business.
Now, I'm in a position with another girl that we're into Comfort and rapport building. I refuse to escalate any further and before she starts to wonder if it's her, I have to stop being a pussy and get into conversation about relationships.. a la deep rapport. Also I guess part of Qualifying, where does that fit again? Argh.. anyway. So this other girl knows about her, and knows what I'm doing- and she's okay with it because although we haven't discussed it, we both share the same frame of what we are together.
So what's the big deal?
Well it's the other girls bday and I'm not going to talk about that shit on her special day. I'm also not going go escalate tonight. But what I do plan on doing is talking to her BEST FRIEND (oh holy shit you have no idea how close these guys are) about why she keeps going back to her douche bag abusive boyfriend, or at least dates someone else at the same time who does appreciate her, and even discredit Abusive Boy Friend (ABF) by asking if he can only handle exclusive relationships.
This had better turn the Idea Lightbulb on for her, where she gets where I'm going.
You see, I love women. They each have their own lives, their own mannerisms, and I adore them all. The super sensitive sweet girl who you'd hate to hurt, who probably wants traditional exclusive dating, and the good times girl who giggles just right, is super flirty, and knows how to have a good time without having to have sex. Well, that's who I'm dealing with right now. I don't want to hurt this girl at all. I will even put fun girl on hold to see how I like the super sweet girl, and I know she'll be okay with it- but I don't know if I really am because it shows weak frame to me. Who am I? What do I want? Right?
The last girl I didn't qualify right is super psycho and is causing problems for us all, even has her little bro giving me a hard time. But I'm keeping it right when talking to him, because it is what it is. He's used to that exclusive shit, and I'm going to break open his world with material from the community. He'll either think I'm scum, or the man, I don't care which as long as he really keeps to himself. I've already closed off his thread, so we'll see what happens.
I had to post this before tonight, because tonight is *her* birthday. And I want to post how I'm feeling now before we all go out, get trashed, and have another Best Night Ever.
No, I wasn't too careful about what I got her for her bday either. But it definitely screams I'm interested. My friends just get shit cards, maybe even handwritten, and a couple bucks to offset their impending bar tab ;) (Exceptions of course, do exist.)
Okay so done, I need to find something to do for another hour or so. Maybe resting and listening to some nice music.
Now, I'm in a position with another girl that we're into Comfort and rapport building. I refuse to escalate any further and before she starts to wonder if it's her, I have to stop being a pussy and get into conversation about relationships.. a la deep rapport. Also I guess part of Qualifying, where does that fit again? Argh.. anyway. So this other girl knows about her, and knows what I'm doing- and she's okay with it because although we haven't discussed it, we both share the same frame of what we are together.
So what's the big deal?
Well it's the other girls bday and I'm not going to talk about that shit on her special day. I'm also not going go escalate tonight. But what I do plan on doing is talking to her BEST FRIEND (oh holy shit you have no idea how close these guys are) about why she keeps going back to her douche bag abusive boyfriend, or at least dates someone else at the same time who does appreciate her, and even discredit Abusive Boy Friend (ABF) by asking if he can only handle exclusive relationships.
This had better turn the Idea Lightbulb on for her, where she gets where I'm going.
You see, I love women. They each have their own lives, their own mannerisms, and I adore them all. The super sensitive sweet girl who you'd hate to hurt, who probably wants traditional exclusive dating, and the good times girl who giggles just right, is super flirty, and knows how to have a good time without having to have sex. Well, that's who I'm dealing with right now. I don't want to hurt this girl at all. I will even put fun girl on hold to see how I like the super sweet girl, and I know she'll be okay with it- but I don't know if I really am because it shows weak frame to me. Who am I? What do I want? Right?
The last girl I didn't qualify right is super psycho and is causing problems for us all, even has her little bro giving me a hard time. But I'm keeping it right when talking to him, because it is what it is. He's used to that exclusive shit, and I'm going to break open his world with material from the community. He'll either think I'm scum, or the man, I don't care which as long as he really keeps to himself. I've already closed off his thread, so we'll see what happens.
I had to post this before tonight, because tonight is *her* birthday. And I want to post how I'm feeling now before we all go out, get trashed, and have another Best Night Ever.
No, I wasn't too careful about what I got her for her bday either. But it definitely screams I'm interested. My friends just get shit cards, maybe even handwritten, and a couple bucks to offset their impending bar tab ;) (Exceptions of course, do exist.)
Okay so done, I need to find something to do for another hour or so. Maybe resting and listening to some nice music.
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Crap LR
Last night was good (read into that however you wish, I'm not posting details). I had one guy try to steal my girl, but she wouldn't go. And I let her go a few times, but she always came back around the corner before we finally went back to our main spot at the club.
..Fast Forward..
The first time I hit S3, I do pretty much the same thing. This time I had no LMR because I took longer to escalate in S3, and limited myself and did a lot more push earlier on at the venues. I think I was showing signs of LMR myself, which might have helped.
I'm frigging beat, and I have to find a way to get a shower before I get to my other girl's house tonight ;)
I really need to fix my shitty approaching, but based on what this girl told me about her ex, I'm in pretty fucking good shape. But I'm still into long term shit, no ONS. Or am I.. fuck.
..Fast Forward..
The first time I hit S3, I do pretty much the same thing. This time I had no LMR because I took longer to escalate in S3, and limited myself and did a lot more push earlier on at the venues. I think I was showing signs of LMR myself, which might have helped.
I'm frigging beat, and I have to find a way to get a shower before I get to my other girl's house tonight ;)
I really need to fix my shitty approaching, but based on what this girl told me about her ex, I'm in pretty fucking good shape. But I'm still into long term shit, no ONS. Or am I.. fuck.
Monday, June 11, 2007
Inner Game
One thing I know I did with my last girl was drop everything that I had in order to spend time with her.
Most of it was stuff that I had picked up from following the Stylelife Challenge, things that until Neil was like "Hey, do this! Why wouldn't you? Have you tried it yet? What were your results?" Things I have personal hangups about still (guys tanning), but the result is I can actually go to the beach for hours now and not burn like a fucking lobster. That and I finally got off my ass and joined a gym. I was pushing a little too much weight trying to get results faster and ended up hurting my growth rate too. That and moving has killed my gym time for about 2 weeks, but I've decided to force myself to go after work, especially since it's on the way home.
I know it's going okay because I get compliments, not that I'm great looking but definitely they can tell I'm going to the gym. The biggest thing that made me happier with myself was a 9.3 rating on hot or not from some picture we happened to take last year when I just started actually working toward a goal.
One of the main things that has changed is that the places I go, I don't worry about paying cover anymore because most of the time they take my local ID instead of cover, know me and just let me in, or I can get myself and a guest in with no cover. So no pressure to show up before 10 or even later, giving me more me time to read some of the books that I've been meaning to.
The next big ticket item is finding a job closer to home and killing a 3 hour drive.
Most of it was stuff that I had picked up from following the Stylelife Challenge, things that until Neil was like "Hey, do this! Why wouldn't you? Have you tried it yet? What were your results?" Things I have personal hangups about still (guys tanning), but the result is I can actually go to the beach for hours now and not burn like a fucking lobster. That and I finally got off my ass and joined a gym. I was pushing a little too much weight trying to get results faster and ended up hurting my growth rate too. That and moving has killed my gym time for about 2 weeks, but I've decided to force myself to go after work, especially since it's on the way home.
I know it's going okay because I get compliments, not that I'm great looking but definitely they can tell I'm going to the gym. The biggest thing that made me happier with myself was a 9.3 rating on hot or not from some picture we happened to take last year when I just started actually working toward a goal.
One of the main things that has changed is that the places I go, I don't worry about paying cover anymore because most of the time they take my local ID instead of cover, know me and just let me in, or I can get myself and a guest in with no cover. So no pressure to show up before 10 or even later, giving me more me time to read some of the books that I've been meaning to.
The next big ticket item is finding a job closer to home and killing a 3 hour drive.
Seeding
Heh I just realized I've been doing this too, very amateurish because I don't have a lot going on right now (total lie, but I'm still sorting through what I spend my time on). I guess they're just not really great things to seed from my point of view, so I have to fix that asap!
Qualification
Slowly, as I spend more time socializing, I am able to actually feel a certain way based on which level of the game I am experiencing. I spent most of my life introverted and have been working to change that for the better part of 6 months now. It is now that I am able to identify a feeling, and understand where I'm at. Where one day I would have said comfort, I now know strongly that we are still big into attraction and qualification. Why? Because I'm finally at a point where I have to decide who I want to spend my time with on more than just a friendship level. So yes, I am going to qualify the shit out of this girl because if she's not going to do, I've got to move on.
I can look back retrospectively and see that I was big into qualification with the last girl, however I let my game fall apart and became totally hers, ditching some of my other girls to spend time with her. Needless to say I'm starting over with my mltr attempts.
Yes I still suck at Approaching, but that's because I totally disqualify the girl before hand. My reasoning goes: oh she's just here for the weekend, the week, whatever. For some reason I'm still looking for more long term social circle people, but when that changes I imagine I'll be fine with someone who isn't going to last. After all, most of the girls I've taken beyond S3 haven't lasted more than a few weeks due to either my decision, or there's, and only one has ended sour due to her own inner game issues. Plus now I'm mid move so the pad is definitely not up to my standards.. ugh. Hasn't really stopped me, but I like it when things are .. just right.
But I'm excited because for the first time, I know I'm in qual, I feel it, I know.
I can look back retrospectively and see that I was big into qualification with the last girl, however I let my game fall apart and became totally hers, ditching some of my other girls to spend time with her. Needless to say I'm starting over with my mltr attempts.
Yes I still suck at Approaching, but that's because I totally disqualify the girl before hand. My reasoning goes: oh she's just here for the weekend, the week, whatever. For some reason I'm still looking for more long term social circle people, but when that changes I imagine I'll be fine with someone who isn't going to last. After all, most of the girls I've taken beyond S3 haven't lasted more than a few weeks due to either my decision, or there's, and only one has ended sour due to her own inner game issues. Plus now I'm mid move so the pad is definitely not up to my standards.. ugh. Hasn't really stopped me, but I like it when things are .. just right.
But I'm excited because for the first time, I know I'm in qual, I feel it, I know.
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